I think you're angry for reasons you don't want to realize. His "mistakes" are way too small to be feeling so angry at him. It's either some crazy strong transference or anger because he went on vacation, IMO.

I think what he is trying to say is that you being so dependent and demanding of him won't help you get better. You have to find the strength and willingness within to get better. It's not that he can't or won't give you techniques, it's that you have to be willing to bring problems to him (rather than being passive-aggressive), and be willing to do the things you and he decide together to deal with.