My mom has been abusive, manipulative, selfish, highly rigid and has really poor money handling skills. MY parents never had a good relation. Father died due to illness & lack of are. My bro hates her & has moved in with her now because she can't be left alone. She keeps house cluttered, disorganized & unsafe. Unhygenic, oily cooking is her way. Even daily medicines are missed.
We've tried love, patience, arguing, scolding, logic, even emotional blackmail- nothing really worked. I still feel for her because she have had her good sides too. But my siblings (sis n bro have given up). Sis is married, with baby n lives far. I recently got married & live way too. Moreso, taking her with us would only spoil oir marriages. Her negativity is anyway affecting our relationships & personalities.
Dad's relatives avoid her & her clever relatives will only use her for money. They have their own lives & only pretend concern. Nobody wants to get in the mess. Full time nurse not possible. She even switches servants.
We can't live her alone as she can just not take care of herself. We can't force her in an adult home or to a counsellor as she is still able to argue with her stupid logics.
I think she needs a psychologist & love from us family. I am still on but she is so moody, bitter & can insult u unexpectedly that I too would lose my calmness. My siblings have given up on her improvement. I am more worried about my bro who is losing faith in family values & becoming highly self dependent- as in will be nic eto u but won't entertaIn any interference in his life. He's still unmarried. PLZ HELP ME.