Well, on the other side of the spectrum, I'm actually the one that people consider too nice. I'm usually the one who walks around in her little bubble, seemingly without a care in the world, and it tends to turn people off. This actually annoys me so greatly because people are hesitant to befriend me or judge me and think that I'm phony - yet, if i'm a jerk (which I can be) they would talk about that too.

I treat people how I would like to be treated and sometimes the only smile someone gets in their day is from someone who is "too nice". At work, my patients tell me all the time that this is a good job for me (I work in the ER) because I bring a cheerful vibe to a seemingly dismal situation.

I never claim not to have any problems but most people think because I don't show my problem's - I have none or i'm being fake. Really, the case is - when i'm with someone else my focus is on them or what i'm doing and I don't choose to walk around wallowing in my pain. I cry at nights, I cut, I purge - whatever. But the joy I exude in the moment that you meet me is also a part of who I am. Making others happy, makes me happy. It's sad that it's not appreciated more really and that so many people are forced to succumb to way of the world instead of being allowed to be a light for those in the dark.

On the other hand, there are people who are even friendlier than me, and I've had that "she's weird" look about them as well so I totally get where everyone else is coming from. However, because of my own experiences, I tend to be aware of this thinking and usually try to force myself to look past that and converse with the person a little more to form a more solid decision (though I usually have to force myself to).

Sorry for the rant, i'll get off my soapbox now. Lol. Good post though; really got me to thinking.