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Originally Posted by Lauliza
Has he ever asked you what you want to talk about, or what your goals are for therapy? Maybe you could make a list of some specific issues in your life that you want help addressing? Communicating with others, friendships, assertiveness (I'm just throwing things out there, I don't know that these apply to you). If you come prepared with a topic that is a good start. If you don't know where to go from there you can tell him that and ask him what he suggests. Maybe then you can work together...
I think your sessions focus too much on your feelings for him. You end up angry, get passive aggressive. Of course nothing gets accomplished, he can't read your mind or tell you what to do. I think he hopes you'll take a more active approach in your therapy.
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He usually starts the session off by asking how my last week was. And then we go from there. It's never on a set issue, just on things that come up, that just so HAPPEN to be issues, over the past week, that have spilled onto the rest of my life. So we do touch on past things, but only when relevant to the present.
And you're right in that my sessions focus too much on my feelings for him. HE doesn't know that, though. These are just thoughts in my head. I don't vocalize them. We talk about other stuff, like what I mentioned above. He never lets me start out a session by talking about what I want to talk about...it's always just an update on how things have been. He never asks me leading questions. Unless I get the courage to vocalize something and start up a whole new topic. I dunno. I hate doing that though. I shouldn't always have to!
Honestly I'm just feeling like my emotional needs are not getting met. I have found the number of a psychodynamic therapist in my area today and am thinking of giving him a call. I'm kinda scared. Basically my seeing my T next Friday all rides on whether he texts me back or not. If he doesn't, I'll see that I really don't matter enough, and I need to find someone who is more willing to not "abandon" me, so to speak.