I think this is why they have the saying, to find your prince charming, you have to kiss a lot of frogs. I told t this week, i dont think ive ever had a real friend. I wasnt available myself, and there was too much transference going on with people i met. The family always said, oh there is always going to be things you dont like about a person, you just have to give in and get along. Never any idea that you could actually find somebody who liked the same things you did. Or that that was important. Anyway - thats the person you want to be vulnerable with. It will help you connect. Its wasted on other people.