Thanks everybody. Do you guys think that there is some kind of vulnerability signal that other people send out that makes you think the other person might be vulnerable if you got close. My T seemed to be suggesting that I don't do that. But I don't have the faintest idea what my T is talking about. When I met my SO I didn't like him because I thought he would be vulnerable with me, it was something that just happened. I just liked him cause he was smart, and seemed a lot like me. Does anyone get some kind of impression from other people about their likelyness to be vulnerable. I've seriously spent all week think that my T is full of it.