Do what I did--start working on a plan for your way out. Find someone who wants a roommate, who has a home and furniture, so you don't have to worry about that right away. Find a job to tide you over until you can get a better one. In any case GET OUT. This guy is toxic, and you will never be happy with him, trust me.Been there, done that. Not the threesome stuff, but some of the things he's done to you, like someone else said, red flags GALORE! When a guy starts getting abusive like that, he does NOT get better, not on his own. In fact, it WILL get worse. And the fact that drinking is behind it too--bad news. I didn't have the drinking going along with it, and it was bad enough! Do what you have to do to get away from him. My ex husband used to try to push me outside naked, a few times. This guy sounds too much like him, except for the threesome part. He also threatened to kill himself if I didn't stay with him. I was young--only 20, and he had me intimidated. Today, I'd tell him he was more than welcome to do as he wanted, just away from me. Always have someone around who can protect you if he gets violent when you try to leave too! That is REALLY important! I did it, you can too! And I had a four year old son too.