Ask yourself this-do you love him enough to...

apologize to your elderly neighbor because he exposed himself and pis.sed on her garage door in the middle of the day

cower in the corner, on the floor, trying to protect your face so he couldn't slap you anymore

have the lights turned off because he stopped on the way to the electric company at a bar

have him go off to Vegas (or wherever) lose all the rent money and get evicted the next month

watch him gobble down his food on the holiday, so drunk that he begins to choke and have to do the himliche (sp) on him to save his life-twice

spend coutless sleepless nights waiting to see if he will make it home and praying that he doesn't kill someone else while he drives so drunk he can barely walk

become the punching bag and the punch line for all his drunken rages

spoil every birthday and holiday, gradually isolate you from all your friends, wait for him to get out of jail after another DV charge, keep preteding that he will ever become a better lover, because if he doesn't care now-he never will, stop wanting new clothes or shoes or make-up because that money is going to go to the bar, have people tell you about his infidelities, watch the brain damage from the alcohol turn him into a shadow, give up every hope ad dream you ever had...?

Do you love him that much?

Promises mean nothing. It will never change. He will never change. If you want a life, get out. Go to a shelter, sleep on a friend's floor, work at a fast food joint-do whatever you have to do-just get out while you are young.

As for the threesomes, that is only a smoke screen. He will never forget, or forgive and if there is a threesome, it will be a disaster.

Get out before it scars your heart forever. And never take up with an alcoholic again.