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Originally Posted by forhumanity'ssake
Hi! Thanks for replying. Yes I need help- seriously.
When I speak to her nicely, she responds well buth then its momentarily and I have to be very particular about what I say. Eg, if I recommend that I will take her to a normal health checkup, she would bring up past grudges & won't move on. I see psychologist as only option. I tried to use the word ''counselor'' & explain that its not only mad people who go to him/ her. But she would get highly offended & refuse.
She abuses my bro & he too is not interested in her anymore. We sisters can't live there. We can go on but I fear things things'll only AGGRAVATE with her- physically & mentally in the coming years, which will eventually affect all.
I seek her advice, love as a mom but right now, I can curb those wishes bcoz now, all I want her is to live safely atleast. She is suffering inside but would not accept it. PLZ HELP ME. I live in India & she is 57.
Sorry, for the long msg. I am new & rules restrict me from PMing u. plz rep here.
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It's ok, this isn't too long. I don't know the customs of India, so my ideas may or may not work out...I'd still like to help you though and will give you two different options.
You clearly said you explained what a therapist is to your mom but she is still against it. You make it sound like she really needs it. From what you said it seems to me she has a fear of visiting health professionals in general. Is this what you meant? If that's the case, is it possible that you can go to a place that can offer her services and seek advice on the situation? They can tell you what the general policies are for where you live and what is and what isn't allowed along with who they can and can't help under which circumstance. If so, you can also possibly continue to go other offices that offer therapy and ask for the same information. This can be a good way to start researching a little bit so you can develop a plan for her.
Can you trick her? Normally I'd be totally against this, but my personal preferences don't matter here. Go to the therapist and explain the situation, arrange an appointment. Take her out and go a different route to the professional's office so that - if they're allowed to operate this way - she will be forced to stay because they already know the situation.
These are just initial ideas since I don't know if things are different in India, considering I'm in the U.S Let me know if this helps...hopefully it does. Also, you don't have to follow what I'm saying exactly, since you know more about this than I do. And PM me as soon as you can.
Good luck.
