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Old May 03, 2014, 10:45 AM
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Originally Posted by feralkittymom View Post
I just think we view this topic from very different perspectives. As I've said, some people experience shame from negative comparisons, but others are not particularly sensitive to such cultural messages and are not unduly influenced by them, either by nature or self-awareness. While I'm sure most have experienced shame at some point in their lives, I view that as a healthy experience. But for someone to be in the grip of continued experiences of shame is unhealthy. I don't think a self-aware T would have any difficulty understanding and appropriately responding to any shame a client feels, regardless of where it originates. But the responsibility ultimately rests with the client to be willing to examine the internal source of continued shame experiences, otherwise empathic acceptance will never be internalized--and the person will continue to be subject to external negative messages.


This thread is about comparisons which I addressed. I think you confuse understanding, experience and acceptance. You can hear messages and not be sensitive to them. It doesn't mean you have never felt their intent. My take with you is you assign quality to shame which is shaming in itself. It doesn't work like that.

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