Ok. Next time she brings up weight, here is your mantra: With firmness in your voice, say: "I love you but talking about weight is going to ruin our relationship. Don't ever speak of weight again. Period." Then change the conversation.

If she keeps talking about it, making excuses, justifying herself, etc., don't react. Look her straight in the eye and say the exact same thing you said. As many times as it takes for her to stop.

If she brings it up in future conversations, you can handle it a few different ways. Like on the phone, you can say: "If this conversation is going to be about weight, then this conversation will end. Now - should I hang up or would you like to talk about going to a movie?" If you are together, then do what you did the first time - say the same thing. Or keep repeating "Discussions about weight are not allowed." And change the subject.

If you stick to it,, and always stop it as soon as she 'goes there,' chances are she'll eventually stop, and she will walk away from it with a new respect for you for having set a healthy boundary. You will also feel better about yourself. Sometimes it is hard for parents to stop viewing us as children when we are grown. You need to set the boundary. She is not allowed to treat you in a way that you don't like. You are not obligated to accept it. You don't live with her, so you aren't trapped. You decided it was in your best interest to rely on your dad - not her. You don't owe it to her to let her blather on in a way that is harmful to you.

So don't ever let her get away with it, Newtus. Don't react with anger or hurt. Strong voice. Practice ahead of time so it comes out automatically.

That's your job today... get going working on that!