When I was dumped by my boyfriend (now my husband--we were high school sweethearts) he wanted to date other people in college. I was devastated. I was supposed to go to the same college he was attending (he was 2 years ahead of me in school), but I decided to go elsewhere so I wouldn't have to see him daily & so it wouldn't look like I was "chasing" him.

I needed to get my own life as Perna said. I had become much too dependant on him. I started dating other people & really worked on myself. He flew down to see me a couple months later & said he realized he loved me & wanted to get back together. I first told him "no" as I was feeling a lot better about myself & wasn't sure I wanted to get back into that dependancy thing I had before.

Well, that made me all the more attractive to him! He kept pursuing me & after several months I relented & we got engaged. Been married for 32 years now. We have our share of problems, mostly due to my bipolar & being so emotional, but he has stuck with me.

Maybe he is your "true love", but it sounds like he is taking some good steps to improve his life. You should address your gambling issues, as well, & focus on your child & your own areas that need improvement. You'll feel better about yourself & make yourself more attractive to him or possibly another man who is out there waiting to meet you.--Suzy