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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
Your view of shame is credible, and I have never stated otherwise. But it is only one theory among several. I understand it; I simply don't adhere to it.
I don't know why you're unwilling to accept that, nor why you've felt the need to pepper your posts with insults. I took issue with your first post which claimed that "economic/education status is something we all feel shame about. Every one of us" because that has not been my experience, nor the experience of my T (and we have talked extensively about this topic), nor the experiences of my closest friends.
Clearly, for the OP's friend, it will be an issue, at least at the beginning of therapy. Whether he's able to work through it or not will depend upon both the T's skill and fit and his willingness to engage despite his apprehensions.
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I am honest. I do feel that you assign quality to shame. I felt it as you addressed me. Since you don't understand it as an emotion I think you probably have a hard time understanding it. Yes we disagree.
My opinion.
Actually my T is very different than your tradition T. She was trained traditionally but has since adopted an approach that a lot of T's are adopting. That is not being afraid to share things about themselves. Not being afraid to show emotion. I've had more trad types and I do not feel empathy. I feel sympathy but I do not get a feeling of empathy that I do from my T. That's how I know she also feels shame.