Recently I've lost my faith in any ability I may have to bond with another person. I'd been chatting, texting, skyping with this guy for over 3 months, and we finally met in person last weekend (since we live so far away from each other, it was difficult to find a weekend that accommodated both our schedules). Seriously, I drove for 7.5 hours to get to his house (and the drive home was over 9 hours). I drove over the mountains which terrified me, and my car battery almost died on me. But I went because we were both so excited to finally meet each other, and after the first night, he told me he wanted us to start dating. I wanted it too, and the next few days were also great. For the rest of the week after I drove home, he seemed to be avoiding me, not texting or talking as often as he usually does. Last night (which was a rough night to begin with) I asked him about it. He started out by saying that he didn't think the long-distance relationship would work out. Although I agreed, I also felt very strongly that long distance wasn't why he really wanted to quit the relationship. So I asked him again what was going on, and he told me he didn't think our personalities worked together. I asked him in what way did they not work together, and he didn't give me any clarification. Needless to say, we broke up, and the rest of the conversation was not pretty.

You might wonder why it's such a big deal to me -- we'd only known each other for a few months, and had only just met in person. For right or for wrong, here's why I was so upset: first, I resented that he tried to BS me and just avoid the issue. I also resent that just because he's got a few hang-ups about this relationship (which he won't even explain to me), he's unwilling to even try to make the relationship work when we'd only just begun. And I know it's unfair to use this against him, but I resent that after making that drive to his place and back, simply to accommodate him, he doesn't want to take this any further. Also he set the stage for the relationship in the first place -- he told me he wanted to start dating. I realize it was stupid of me to fall for that, but if he had doubts or second thoughts, why'd he say that in the first place? I feel like I was just a good time to him, and I didn't understand why he wasn't being honest with me. Most of all, I feel like an idiot, because I feel that he royally screwed me over. Do I attract these types of guys? Why do I always date this type? Will I die old and alone? I'm 28, all my friends are either getting married, married already, or married/divorced with kids. I feel like a loser around them. And hey, I am not saying that I am perfect, or that I'm easy-going, or that I'm so incredibly desirable. I just ask for honesty, that's all.