That's amazing, Mouse. I'm so glad I read your post ecause it even further validates my own anger.

I hold enormous amounts of anger towards my mother. She was never physically abusive, but there is so much other stuff, that I wouldn't even know where to begin. I have always tried to deny my anger and would tell T that I'm acting stupid, like a baby because she never hit me-- things weren't that bad, I'd always say... So I probably shouldn't be angry, I probably shouldn't even be as screwed up as I am-- maybe I'm just dramatic, or I'm just blaming the situation on her, I hate *wasting* my therapy time talking about her.

Then my T began to help me see that there were real reasons why I should be angry with her. Real reasons why I should have attachment and rejection issues. He helped me to validate my feelings, helped me to see that real things did happen.

I'm so glad you posted this because it helps me to see that even further. And I'm glad you are seeing it, too.