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But to try to forgive one's abuser releases the abused from the captivity an abuser has put them under.
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Absolutely! But I just wonder at the degree of forgiveness that we need to reach in order to

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We will never, ever forget, nor will we be able to completely rid ourselves of the rage and pain we feel.
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THAT, exactly, is what I, personally, have been dealing with. Not only me, but many others here. Is there a defining line between forgiveness and... what would it be, "forgetfulness"? When dealing with a wrong done to me and my daughter many years ago, I was told by a minister, that to forgive is one thing, but it's not necessary to forget. To remember, is to keep ourselves out of harm's way.

Some of us would give anything to be able to truly forget but it's not within our power to do so. I'm not too sure that it would be wise from the stand point of the many lessons learned in our recovery. MY lessons have been invaluable to me in many ways.

Yes, this person has a perfect right to seek out and use whatever help/support/healing he may find. I have absolutely no quarrel with that... BUT not at the expense of so many others that didn't take the fork in the road that HE took.

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