i think that one should (if and when the time comes) go into the act of looking for a girlfriend..sexual history should not be consideration, what i mean by that is that whether or not are person has had sex or hasn't has no bearing on the person as an individual.

some people choose to be sexually active others don't. that is a matter of choice as is religion or sexual orientation. me personally i would prefer a woman with experience..especially if she can teach me something new,
i am always open to learning whether it be a physical,mental or psychological exercise.

sex is perfectly normal and how and when we choose to pursue it is a matter of individual choice, there might well be virgin women that want to be with an experienced guy for their first encounter, should they exclude you from their potential dating pool because you have no experience? i don't think that would be fair to discount you because of that criteria (you may very well be an awesome person)

some people choose to engage in one night stands,casual sex and others choose not to have sex at all and that is their choice,
there is nothing wrong with that anymore than it is wrong to enjoy steak and lobster...some people don't like either. It is all a matter of opinion, just because a particular person disagrees with someone else's lifestyle choice
doesn't make it wrong..it's just wrong for that particular person.

in my personal opinion it is a mistake for someone to marry someone without finding out if they are sexually compatible, and...the only way to do that is to have sex.

consider this scenario..you are a virgin and lets say hypothetically your bride is a virgin. now on paper that sounds fantastic,right?? the problem is you have no idea what either of your sexual compatibility is, suppose you guys have sex for the first time you love it and she hates it, now you are stuck in a sexless marriage..now that would be a horrible turn of events for you.

now also consider this scenario, you are a neat freak and she's a bit messy
now you guys have never lived together so there's no way you could know this in advance..of course no one is going to tell a person right off the bat that they are a slob, you guys get married and then..bam you find out your "perfect wife" is no so perfect after all..again another bad situation.

my point is it is important to find out as much about a person as possible before you marry them to make your union as smooth as possible.whether they have had sex or not really should be irrelevant, the same as where they went to school.

sex is a very important part of any relationship and think otherwise would be foolish, to do so would be at your own peril.

so my friend i would advise you to be a lil more open minded and don't let society's double standard cloud your vision.. i do wish you luck in your seach