I'm already dreading Mother's Day. My mother is a martyr. It took me a long time to realize that all of her 'selfless' giving isn't actually nice -- it's just a set up for a future guilt trip.

In the past, she has vocally complained about the gifts we've given her on Mother's Day. This makes me feel like not getting her any gift at all. I have one present for her, but since it is home made, I know she is going to complain about it. I am not sure if I am going to get something else or not.

She also complains that we don't take her out to eat. I am tired of being the one that is either hosting these events or footing the bill for everyone to eat out. I can't afford it this year and my siblings are not stepping up.