I am very sorry for that comment. I should have never made it. I was speaking of myself and a crude saying that is out there that my friends have said to me joking. I in no way meant it toward you and your situation.

I know you are in a very difficult situation and it has to be very hard. I said in the previous post that true love and caring are involved for sure. It is very hard to know what the right thing to do is. I don't believe in giving up hope on people. How involved do you want to be is the question. I know I was the rebound relationship for some women. They told me they loved me. When they were emotionally stronger they dumped me. Did they really love me? I dunno maybe to a degree. I know I was a quick fix. I had a rescuing addiction issue or codependency issue. Same thing.
You asked what we thought.
I think wanting to go back to unhealthy relationships is a part of addiction. That what is most important is to take of yourself and your sobriety. It is up to your to decide whether it is unhealthy for you or not. Whether you want to give her a chance. I don't know what the answer is for you. I know what the answer would be for me at this point in my sobriety. But even that in reality is hard to say unless I was in the same spot right now.