Lostone - Hello. I am sort of in the same situation as you are except it is my wife who left me. We have been married for 9 years....both going to college to get a better future ( I thought) and then back in September she left and moved back into her paren'ts home. She said she needed to "Find herself" apparently that involves meeting men she does not know for sex. She has changed almost completely from what I knew her to be. I have changed too. I've lost about 35 pounds and I continued on in my college classes and am doing alright. Istay awake at night though wondering how I could make it work...I tried everything I could think of. But it did not work. April 2nd the divorce with be over and I will be single again.....something I never thought I would deal with. I also see her quite a bit since we both go to the same college. I have just decided to focus on "me" not selfishly but to improve and get the things out of life that I want. I have been hurt big time...and I don't knwo if I will ever marry again. This for me is my second divorce....my first wife ran off with her girlfriend. SO relationships for me are I think a mystery! I ran across this saying the other day and I thought it was awesome:

"Never make someone a priorty who only thinks of you as an
option."

Hope you start to feel better soon.

Tobey