I would absoluetly not see a therapist who I didn't think had hope for me, or her clients in general. Of course it is important to have hope for yourself, but I think when some people enter therapy they have very little of that, and may need someone else to have hope for them until they can have hope themselves. A therapist must belive that her clients are capable of change, otherwise I cannot possibly understand what would motivate the work. I seriously do not believe that anyone is too far gone for a T or anyone else to have hope for them.

I'm pretty sure that my last T didn't have as much hope for me as I had for myself. I think she saw me as hopelessly broken when I repeated one of my obsessive patterns with her. She gave me no credit for being able to recognize or work on what I was doing, and spoke to me as if I was an idiot who had no idea what therapists did. I think that my T was burned out.

Readytostop, I'm not sure if I would see this T if I were in your shoes. It sounds like she might be burned out, and have good and bad client categories going on in her mind. Personally I would be seriously worried about doing something that would cause me to end up in the bad client category. I would go with your gut on this one. I would look for a T that you feel at ease with.