Can i give you a different perspective? My mom was like that! But she killed herself 2 days after i got out of the hospital after a suicide attempt. One thing i have learned was that parents are as flaued as we are. You cant please some people, especially family! We need to learn to please ourselves first sometimes, i am trying to learn that now. If you cant be honest with her or she wont understand then talk to someone in your circle that does. Our happiness and mental healthiness doesnt always mean that our folks get what we need. In fact i am convinced that most people cant understand that sometimes people just need understanding and acceptance not judgement.