The first year i was seeing my t, i asked him if he believed in me. He replied that he believed in the process. I understood that he didnt know me, i had recently been fired, i was at a low point in my life, he had missed all the good parts! - so i let it go. A few years later, i tried to remind him of our exchange, and he denied saying he only believed in the process. But i still think rts's t needs to work on her own unconditional positive regard. You took home and to heart the message she was sending. Bad message.