Sometimes people are raised to find sex repulsive and it can be really hard to rewire thoughts based upon that - if that's relevant to you OP then you might want to think about that and consider your upbringing and if you actually agree with how you were taught to think about sex.
Sometimes feeling repulsed by sex while a virgin could stem from worries about feeling inferior or being judged for the lack of experience? I'm not saying that you feel that way, but if you are... that's ok. I still feel like that despite having multiple partners. The best way to handle those feelings is to tackle them head on really.
Sometimes the feeling of being repulsed by people who've had sex can in fact come from a moral judgement - again, probably based in someone's upbringing. It might not even be a conscious judgement on someone and I think it is usually from a religious standpoint, although obviously not always. If you're religious and think this may be an influence, perhaps you could try using a relationship site for that religion? Like... Christian dating sites are probably more likely to have people who wish to remain virgins until marriage.
There are lots of reasons why you might feel the way that you do. It's ok to be feeling that way, but if it makes you really uncomfortable and if you wish to change your outlook... it'll probably help you to try and figure out the deeper reasons behind it.
If you really want to have relationships with other virgins though, you'll probably want to find a website dedicated to that. Because it's not really all that polite to ask someone about their sexual history right away and you'll just end up hurting both yourself and the woman if you end up rejecting her because you're repulsed by her past.
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