i have a very confusing time with addiction and 12 step programs but i have looked into them a fair bit. ive been really really struggling to try to understand their concept of a higher power and i am just not getting there. also there is just something in the AA philosophy that seems to deny me my difference (despite the fact i hate being different!) and my atheism and that just makes my skin crawl so i think i understand where you are coming from.
so anyways i searched the net and found a site called i think smart.com which is for addictions but totally not AA oriented. i havent looked at it enough to devote myself to it (as i said... complicated. lol) but mayeb it can help you. it seems very interesting.
i also totally appreciate what alex and perna said in this thread. very very cool.
about angry people though mouse. its something ive been feeling a lot of recently and i dont know what to do with it! its an horrific emotion! id almost say its the worst! im with whoever it was said in another thread recently that an anger forum is a good idea.
wish i could speak to T at all about it. maybe next week. considering i had to cancel this week and about 5 hours later found it wasnt necessary but i now i have to wait over a week again to see her. waaaaaahhhhh!
shutting up now. i really do love your posts and insights though.
take care
biiv

ps i think smart.com incorporates more of a CBT approach than 12 step