Well there has been a lot of things said on here to make me think. About myself and my relationships. I'll admit the use of the term mistress jolted me a little.

A little update for anyone interested. There were a few inciting incidents this weekend. Nothing huge but added together they added up to enough that I had to let her know how I feel. I did not say anything about the other woman as I want to keep this about us. I told her that I don't want to end up a miserable old man married to a woman who resents him for whatever reason. I expressed my anger and frustration about her temper and my lack of space. It got quite heated and feelings were hurt but it came to an alright end and we hugged and agreed to work on it. I have heard this many times before from her so I am not too optimistic.

Not 12 hours later we were sitting in the living room with no kids in the house. She asked me if I just wanted to sit in today and relax because I seemed tired. I told her that would be nice and then she responded with the Female "Fine then". When I asked her what I did wrong she said "well I wanted to go for a walk but I guess that I'll just have to go out and do that by myself".

She didn't say she wanted to go out for a walk or even give me the chance to say "oh okay, a walk would be nice". She just jumped at me and got angry immediately. I realize that it was not even a day removed from our conversation but I couldn't believe it. Needless to say overall it was not a pleasant weekend.

I don't know what is going to happen between us but I have begun the process of separating our finances so that if it does go south at least it will be a quick thing. If that makes me a bad guy then so be it but I don't know how much more I can take.

And just so everyone knows, my "mistress" and I have spoken at length about what would happen if I did leave my wife and we both have no illusions. We both think that it would be a bad idea to be together immediately after on many levels. Should the unthinkable happen I will concentrate on centering myself and creating a good environment for my kids and when I decided to date I would make sure to get out and date and not jump into another long term relationship.

God I wish there was a manual for this.