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Originally Posted by Lone Soldier
I've had feelings for this friend of mine for about a year, and they've grown a lot since then. We gave a relationship a shot. However, I screwed it up in the course of three days, and now the chance is pretty much impossible. We're still friends, though.
Being so attached to him is too draining, so I want it gone. I have next to no experience with relationships, despite being 25. And if you have any advice on how to prevent romantic feelings from surfacing, then I'd like to know that, too. I know we're all human and can't control our emotions 100 percent, but there must be something out there that can snuff it out before it gets too strong.
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in this case as in any it can be very difficult to remain friends with ex lovers,
very difficult waters to navigate indeed. yet you are only 25 so you are going to again at some point want another relationship. as far as your current situation,
one thing that will help ease the paint is to start seeing other people, even if you have to still be in contact with your ex..the excitement of something new more than overcomes the heartache of a failed relationship.the sooner you see others the sooner the pain will evaporate!
since it was only a 3 day thing, the healing will be quick, now from time to time if you still need to be around your ex those feelings may pop up again and this is normal and to be expected(don't beat yourself up..happens to the best of us!) it important to do your best to control them so you don't hurt yourself anymore.
if it was a mutually agreed break up then friendship is still possible,
i have successfully navigated those waters before but it was a mutually agreed break up( things just weren't working out!)
hope everything works out for you & hope this helps good luck!
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