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because mental illness does not have to cause anyone devastation. We are not responsible for how others respond or react or internalize "our" disorder(s.) They are responsible for managing their own reactions. I wouldn't want anyone to take on any guilt that just plain isn't theirs, especially someone dealing with mental unwellness. I don't like the idea of blame anyway, that insinuates it was purposeful.

I don't know anyone who sits down and plans, taking a leave of their mental unwellness, on how to devastate someone's life.


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I ruined a relationship a few months ago because I was a complete and utter bish. Partly cos I was such a mess due to the d-word. I was pretty much impossible for my boy to deal with. So no, I didn't mean to hurt him (except when I was angry with him for whatever he was asking me to do about the situation - then I know I said things I never should have).

But I take responsibility for my actions and his reactions (i caused him a lot of worry and hurt) were completely valid. I might not term it devastation, but he tried so hard with me on two separate occasions (and yes, I broke up his relationship the first time, the second time i broke up our relationship).

I don't entirely blame my mental state but i sure as hell wouldn't have caused anyone that much stress and hurt if i was in a happy stable sort of mindstate.

okay i think i've gone off topic but people who are in relationships often cause their partners a lot of grief because of their 'mental illness'. it's just the way it is.

if i have misinterpreted this i am sorry.