That's where I sit when I'm in my dark times where I feel like I can't cope with life. I want to be heard, but I don't know what to say and I damn sure don't know what I want them to say. Typically its not helpful, as has been noted by Trippin Marshelette and yourself. My bf has no experience with bp or with mental illness. He is one of those manly men. Strong and independent and always in control. He lost his mother recently, which lent a sensitivity to emotional pain he had never had before.

He is really trying to help me, but as you have said, he also goes into fix it mode and gets very frustrated when his suggestions just bring me to tears. I'm like, don't you think if I could just do THAT, I WOULD??? So I agree with what has been said previously. You can only expect so much from some people, but its good that they at least try.

I feel very very alone myself and very very scared of my future. But I'm trying to not think so much and just be and do and hope that it resolves. It always has.