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I completely agree with drunksunflower. Treating lostson as if he's some kind of monster (while he never acted on his thoughts) is only going to increase his self hatred and alienation. Not very supportive thing to do. If I don't like someone's presence I make use of the ignore button instead of demanding that the person leave the place.

As for the new guideline - I don't think there is ONE person in the world that never hurt anyone (both in their thoughts and reality). If thoughts could hurt I would probably be in jail for the rest of my life or longer.

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I agree with drunksunflower and sparkling. lostson was open about his situation and about the fact he never acted on his impulses. i'd be the first to admit that i have unhealthy impulses that can hurt other people. i haven't voiced them yet because i'm still finding me feet in this forum. they are not of a sexual nature i just mean that at times people make me angry and i want to lash out at them. however i don't do it

i can understand that others need to feel safe but the fact is that lostson is an individual that has been abused and has resisted the temptation to perpetuate that abuse on others. i applaud him for his honesty and candor and strength.