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Originally Posted by Lizzy31
My fiancé will not do anything that I like. We do not live together and I started workng out at home and I know he wants to get healthier. We live 50 minutes apart I thought it would be great to join a gym together in the middle. My fiancée had come up with every reason in the book not to. He can't afford the 20 bucks a month, gyms are creepy n guys try to pick up girls. He is making me feel extremely guilty for even wanting to go to one. He does not want me going anywhere like that without him. I do things for him that I don't care for. He loves guns and commuters at a gun range I helped out and even door a gun something I really didn't care to do. I feel like I'm just wasting my efforts. Granted there's a ton more difficulties in our relationship but I thought this would be fun guess I was wrong.
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lizzy i strongly urge you to hold off on this marriage, you guys are already having problems now which will only intensify once the knot is tied! a relationship is about teamwork, positive communication and compromise, you guys should be doing things together that you "both" like surely there is some middle ground where both of you can find happiness. there can be things that he likes to do, things that you like to do and things you guys can do together.
if he doesn't like to do anything at all that you like...well that is a HUGE RED FLAG. in order for a relationship to work you have to have some common interest, if you don't have that the relationship will struggle (as it is now) and the marriage ultimately will fail.
take time to sit down and talk with him about this...calmly, don't yell or scream or anything just discuss this like two adults and inform him of your displeasure about the situation the way it is, if he recoils and doesn't want to be diplomatic about this then you may need to look into calling off the marriage, you don't want to set yourself up for failure..hope this helps!
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