Well, tell her you need it to move forward. If I had been more assertive with my ex I think that things would have ended differently. Though I'm glad they ended. Anyhow! It's very important that she knows that in order to move forward, that means acknowledging who you are. Having bipolar is something that NEVER goes away. One needs to feel supported or else you can't support her. It is nice to forgive and forget, but who wants to settle for nice? I'd take kindness any day. It requires a great deal of selflessness. On BOTH parts. She may say she wants to 'move forward', but that seems vacant, and I can't help but think all of this will come up every single time you get into an argument. Tell her your marriage means absolutely everything, you're totally in love w her and you need to move forward together not force it. Yeah?