I'm so sorry that there appears to be so many PC'ers that don't feel supported enough by their T's. My T doesn't discourage emailing, but has in the past responded inconsistently. It caused me an immeasurable amount of anxiety and stress. Often times I would wait an entire week for a response and nothing would come back Then I'd get really angry with T, and angry with myself for being 'needy' - and it certainly impacted our relationship!

I brought this up with my T, and we agreed on an hourly rate for emailing. What I like better, now that I'm comfortable, is setting up an additional session (sometimes by phone) if I really need it. Paid hourly, of course.

It's been a big lesson for me in therapy - learning to ask for what I want. I know it's hard, but sometimes if we're not getting what we need out of a relationship (therapeutic or otherwise), we need to cut our losses and move on with someone who is a better fit.