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Originally Posted by Aiyana
Just want some opinions please.
I have an online friend whom I have met in person. We have been friends for quite a while and chat daily via skype as we live on opposite sides of the world.
A week ago he asked me to come visit him. I looked into it and realised it was possible but not going to be easy. I told him this and he pretty much wouldn't take no for an answer. He wanted me to come over in his summer. So, I did everything in my power and made it happen...except that I can only go for 6 weeks, when he wanted me to go for 3 months.
So, yesterday I had sorted everything out that had to be done...everything except for book flights. I was so excited and told him when he came online that I could definitely come, but only for 6 weeks.
His reaction was that 6 weeks was bad news....and now he would have to see about a job. And he said, that job is best done in summer, so he will let me know what happens.
After his response, I was angry, upset and disappointed and I didn't hide it. I felt like he had asked me to come, then when it wasn't exactly what he wanted, he threw it in my face.
We chatted for a bit, then he kept asking me what he did wrong, it's not his fault and why am I being accusing...
Am I in the wrong for being angry/hurt that he has changed his mind?
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let me ask you this..just how much of this trip is he willing to pay for??
for him to not be satisfied with 6 weeks is at the very least ungrateful
att he other end of the spectrum....well, im not gonna say, let's just keep it clean here. hee hee
seriously if this is such a big of a deal and he wants 3 months so bad he should pay for everything, it is inconsiderate that he would be upset.
this isn't a crosstown drive here. it must be an incredible inconvenience to set this up & risk losing what i would consider a very good friend with this type of behavior, i don't know too many people in my neck of the woods that would do what you are proposing.
he should be very thankful that you are willing to travel around the world to see him, to be anything less than thankful is hard for me to fathom
in short..it might be a good idea to cancel this trip, this is an enormous red flag already hope this helps
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