i would agree that we are both insecure, i have always been insecure not just becasue of past relationships, but i make it a point that i am not playing head games with him, i know that i want to be with me, i love him without question. so i don't know why he would feel the need to play jealousy games, maybe he just gets a kick out it, or its an ego boost cuz he's in a band. im not sure, but to me if you want to keep someone around you wouldn't do these things. i have tried to talk to him but it always turns into a fight, even if i stay calm he gets angry, counceiling is out of the question, but im just trying to get my emotions under control. and worry only about myself and our relationship like you said, its just difficult at times