Yea... Funny you mentioned rehab, I was trying to keep up with her life to the point to where MY FAMILY SENT ME TO REHAB just being involved with her life. I left rehab after two weeks and never drank again, this time to be on the sidelines and being a spectator trying to salvage our relationship... When I saw her throwing up all morning from drinking after she said she would stop drinking, that was enough and I left. I threw her two more life lines, I tried to get my family involved by asking her to do something simple, my mom asked how she was and I was thinking this would be a good way to get my family intervined. I let her know my mother asked how she is and she might think about giving my mom a call, surprising her and just saying hi. Her response was, "F**k that Im not kissing "nobodys" *** b**ch." So I threw on e last life line which was, I told her to have her father call me because I need to have a meeting with her father if she wants this to work out... I told her I need to get her family involved in our relationship and tell them what I am going through. They have been through it and have more experience than I do....

So, her father ended up calling me 7 times. And left a voicemail saying we need to talk. I didn't answer because I was on the other line with a friend from another country and I cant call back to another country. Also, the number calling me was a blocked/restricted number. It wasnt until I got off the ohone with my friend from another country that I found that, she had in fact relayed my message of, "If you want to salvage this relationship this is the last chance you have I need to talk to your father." And that ended uip happening an hour after I sent the email.

There has been no contact since her father tried to contact me. So I know it means enough to her to have her family try and help us and salvage our relationship. I just dont know what to do. I mean, if her parents see this, why are they giving her money when she spends it on drugs and alcohol and not getting her help? I feel like I am insulting them almost putting in this effort.

I have no clue what to do. She cares enough to pass that message on to her father, but she doesn't care enough to cheat on me right in front of my face, call men to come pick her up right in front of my face, I have caught her with this guy six months ago one time and then just one month ago she said that she has been banging him this whole time, then denied it when she was sober.

I should not have to decide what is real and what isn't and have her father involved.... I feel like if I talk to her father this will go nowhere.

What do you think?

Do you think I should ask her father out to dinner or something? I cannot look at her in her face again. I can find the strength to meet her father though.

Like, things I need to talk to her father about: She got a possession charge and now she is going to court the day that we had plans. She "couldn't" leave her parents house because she wanted to stay home and get the mail because she didn't want her parents to find her court paperwork come in the mail. She will never get the help she needs living in hiding and running from her problems. If I bring up somethign like this to her father with her there, she will lie about the whole thing. She already went to jail for a possession charge in the past and she pakced up suitcases, told her parents she was going on vacation, went to my neighbors house and dropped off her luggage and then went to jail for a while.

Like, I don't know where to begin. The lies, and everything seems to be just her wiring.

If I attempted to salvage this it is not by talking to her and getting into her life, it would be working out a relationship with her father first. What do you think about this?

I don't think it is a good idea but I care about her and I wouldn't want someone to give up on me.... Even though she did give up on me before (She left me when I was broke and down on my times saying this "Kevin" guy she thinks will treat her better..

I don't know, can you give me advice on meeting not her but her father for dinner?