We talked about it I told him how hurt I felt. We have been having intimacy purely on my part I have no sex drive anymore he takes it a bit personally I imagine any guy would but we are working through it. I explained to him what a dunce he was being. He voiced his insecurities, he's agreed to go look at the gyms with me and that he might have misconceptions that he needs to see to be solved. I emphasized it's purely for health reasons . He thinks I'm prefect the way I am I told him I dint feel pretty or sexy I'm doing it for myself if he wants join me it's his decision. If not I'm going with my girlfriend.