I can't speak for the previous poster, but I think what she meant is that sometimes you can't blame all the behavior on BP. I mean it has a lot to do with why she has gotten to that point, but there is free will and I know I would never do a lot of the things you have brought up... manic and f'd up or not.

Not to say I haven't had my moments. I've done many things I regret and probably don't remember many more, but I do think personality puts some limits on what we will or will not do.

Bottom line.... you are supportive, but don't be a doormat. You are in love with her but don't let it blind you. You are educating yourself about this terrible disorder and the ways it manifests. That is good for you and for her if you reunite, but you have to think of your well-being. Especially since you have admitted that her family basically enables her to continue to be out of control and have no accountability.

She needs help, but you can't make her want to get it. But you can try, if you still choose to, and the more educated you are the better prepared you will be.

Good luck and prayers with you for this ordeal you are going through.