My family was like that - like everything is "just fine" and thought I just needed to "buck up" or whatever. It's total crap. I didn't get help until I was 21 and basically had a total mental breakdown. It was clear to see I needed help many years before that.

Have you both already tried explaining point blank that you are really having a hard time with depression/anxiety and you need to see a doctor? If you have and still can't get help them I'm really sorry because that is terrible... if not I would say that my family was like that too but I regret not just telling them "I really, really need help" long before I got help. I was screaming it as loud as I could through my behavior but nobody seemed to notice.

I was taught the total opposite so it really didn't even occur to me - I was taught to just deal with things and pretend everything is great so that's what I did until I was having panic attacks with intense physical symptoms that were impossible to ignore. If I had gotten help earlier I think I would also be much mentally healthier today at 30...

Meds and therapy CAN help you. I don't know what situation you are both in but I hope that there is some way you can get help whether it's immediate family, extended family, a school councilor, a family doctor, a local walk-in clinic or wherever...