My thoughts after reading this is that he is telling you very plainly that he doesn't have time for you right now, but that he does love you and he expects the situation to be temporary. It seems only time will tell if after he gives up the 20 hr a week job whether he is able to balance his schedule to include you or not.

Quite frankly it seems like you are satisfied with so very little it can hardly be called a relationship. It seems like he has his whole life partitioned out to work and his son, and tries to squeeze in a tiny bit of time for you if he can - but no promises. Maybe I am reading this wrong? Taking a vacation made it easy to spend time with you, but once back to real life, you are very far down on the list of priorities.

I say all this having recently ended a relationship with a man very similar to this - he really broke my heart - he would give me lots of things and say there were no strings attached, but he was very good at keeping me out of his life for the most part - either working, going to AA meetings, exercising, or watching TV, texting, and keeping to himself almost all the time. It didn't start out like this. We had two vacations where we had a lot of fun - but back home it was back to living separate lives again.

He always gave me money and fixed my car and stuff like that - and it seemed all he wanted was thanks at first. Then later it became the only way he could display he cared for me, and if I was ungrateful or said I didn't need it, he felt rejected and unappreciated.

You want time with him, and he does not value time with you enough to make it a true priority. He's just giving you his leftovers. That is not satisfying. Maybe you should be the one to say "this is not worth it for me - I am worth more effort than this."