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Originally Posted by soccerdad
I'm not keeping score but I know that deep down inside I want to come home and have everything be alright and have my marriage be great. Everytime she says that we can make things better and something regresses back to where it was it hurts all over again. I genuinely believe that I can be happy with her for the rest of my life if some things change. I love her and I did marry her after all but we both keep saying we will get there and we keep ending up at the same exact spot. How many chances am I supposed to give this?
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The point is that you don't get home and find everything alright by miracle. We usually must work our own miracles.
Brainhi said about counseling, you didn't even answer to that.
You are not obliged, of course.
If you say you've had enough, no one can add anything.
But listening from your internet words it doesn't really feel like you've tried everything and maybe this could be a regret, in time.
You keep telling that she behaved badly. But if the both of you did not work to understand what went wrong, how could things possibly be different?
It is just too easy to only blame her.
If things went wrong responsibility is shared.
How did you contribute to your marriage going wrong?
Please don't take my words too personally. I don't want to blame anyone. But it's really just too easy to say that it is all her fault.