This is not your fault first of all. There "are" men out there like this, and they are attracted to a certain type of woman that inexperienced and on the shy side. I was that kind of female and the more I showed fear/shy/quiet, the more these creeps pursued me. Once a victim this kind of person is even more shy, which makes them stand out to these creeps even more. That is why these victims begin to have these experiences over and over and don't understand "why" they keep having this happen to them.

I can't remember exactly when I learned this, but I finally learned that when this type of man or many men seemed to be attracted to me, is instead of my being shy and what they liked, I became the opposite, I would tell a dirty joke in a strong way and learn right into them and laugh. It always turned them off, always.

If you were to turn the table and get aggressive back to him to where "he" needed to actually "please you", you would scare him away and turn him off. These males are cowards and are all about "control and power", they are horrible sex partners too because their are "only in it for their control because they are really just cowards, they really are".

Victims are always pursued by the wrong males, abusers, because victims are what attract these abusers.

What is also true is that if a man was raised by a strong minded narcissistic type mother, they will often pursue these kind of women or what they perceive this type of woman because they seem strong and out going often because of their deep need to find a way to overcome what they did not get or were hurt by in their past. It can actually become a kind of "sick obsession" for some men. It is actually "sad" once one understands how that "sickness and obsession originated.

You need to learn how to stop the "victim mentality" once and for all. You need to understand "why" you are challenged and finally learn how to overcome it and that you "can" learn to do just that.

It is only a "good game" for an abuser if the victim gives them what they want/need to gain their sense of "needing to control to make up for their low self esteem issues". In either case I have described, it is only a dysfunctional way of these males to "gain attention", something that was missing for them in their past.

Most bullies target individuals when they know these individuals will respond the way they need to "feed their need for power because of their
lack from something in their past". People don't understand why they pick on those who are obviously weaker in some way, well, that is because they know they will get the response they need to gain that "high they need to feed into that is covering that low self esteem in them".

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