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Originally Posted by supernaught16
Also, here is another thing. I'm a dude. I feel weird that, I still love her and have feelings for her and the only person I want to have sex with is her. I don't see myself having sex with anyone else. I see college kids and guys at the gym and stuff all talking about having sex with women and having no feelings for them and I can't seem to see myself having sex or wanting it with anyone else because I don't have feelings for them. On the otherside it hurts to know that this dude she has been talking to is one of those other guys that are having sex with her and not even having feelings for her and she is going to end up getting hurt.
Is it normal after a breakup for a guy not want to have sex with anyone else when they are in love with that one person?
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Of course it's normal. If you love someone and want only them then the transition to wanting a different person is, for most, just that. A transition.
If she is stating that she wants to try to get better and you still love her then you need to determine what would be acceptable for you and whether or not you could get past all she's done. It sounds like from what you said before, you wouldn't be able to forgive/forget, and trust is going to be a huge problem.... rightfully so.
You are going to have a long journey to figuring out yourself again. It's hard when someone and their major health/behavior issues become YOUR whole world. I don't recall if you said you have a counselor, but if you don't you might consider it.