I've been there Psyclox (more than once). I know how painful it is. (((Hugs))) to you.

The man who I used to think was the love of my life is now my best friend. After a very long, emotionally exhausting relationship, we broke up 8 years ago. We spent some time apart, but then we began to work on rediscovering the friendship part of our relationship -- because we both missed each other. For the past 7 years we have been close, supportive friends to each other. Even though we couldn't make it work as a couple, we still love each other and we're still in one another's lives -- and that feels so much better than when we were hurting each other in an intense relationship. I believe that once you love someone, you love them forever, but the nature of that love can change -- if the other person is willing and worth the effort.

I hope you can move on and fall in love again... and I hope that you and Brenda (if you're not meant to be together as a couple) can go on to be great friends.