<sigh> This is not directed at anyone on this thread but I just can't stand these "boundaries"...

I mean really, so what if she wants to give a card, show appreciation etc. Our therapists, if we like them and are good, why not tell them or show them?

I'm sure some could abuse this and probably have on both sides but most of us are consenting adults who know who we like, don't like, appreciate, don't appreciate etc...

I really don't like that this decision is taken from us like we need to be told how to feel and how to act. For me, this is counter productive and I think it makes the process way more mysterious than it needs to be.

If a therapist said to me that I could not give him a card or show any sort of appreciation, that would be a therapist who is not for me. In fact, this is probably why until now I have left every therapist I've ever been to.

They never said a word, showed an emotion, talked to me like a real person or even cracked a smile....therapy isn't a "one size fits all"...concept. We all need to be who we are don't we and find therapists that aren't trying to squash that.

I'm going off I realize but I just needed to vent this out.

So, yes give her the card and if she doesn't appreciate it or says not to do it again, find someone else who will let you be you...just my opinion....