I know other clients have given T a xmas card because I've seen them. I personally don't feel comfortable in giving any gift. Not that I'd particularly class a card as a gift exactly. But I think maybe I would discuss with my T if its ok to offer gifts? Its a bit like people that hug, I personally dont like to be hugged and would like my preference to be asked.

Sometimes a client may feel that other clients give gifts and therefore may feel pressured to give an even "better" gift or a more "meaningful" gift.

They may feel that if others give a gift, but they don't they may feel as if they will then be thought less off by a T?

For me I love boundairies. They are for my benefit also as I can be a people pleaser and I can put people on peddlestools hoping this will make them think better off me.

I would have worried that my lack of ability to give gifts like hugs would mean I'm "bad" when I'm not, I'm just shy.

I think talking and working out reasons why we want to give gifts is the best gift we can give to each other?

Maybe I'm just a meanie? see now I feel bad coz I'm not the gift giving type :- (