Thank you for all the replies. My apologies, I didn't explain the situation enough, I was too emotional.

To clarify, he does have a job, he is a contractor, he was taking time off while I was visiting. I'm pretty sure his comment about taking the job was meant in that if I'm not going to be there 'long term', he needs to consider whether it's rational to not take on this piece of work and lose out on some decent money.
I am paying for flights and everything from this side, he is paying for my visas and all my expenses while I'm there. It wouldn't be fair to say he is not making sacrifices for me as well, but he did invite me, this trip was his idea. I wanted to pay for some things for myself.

@ soccerdad -I have met him in person, so it's not like I'm going to the other side of the world to meet an unknown. I wouldn't do that.

I should also clarify that, although we video chat for hours every day, we are friends only, there is no romantic intentions by either of us, although there are some feelings. We both decided early on, that we both want this to be a serious friendship only. We do have a very close friendship, we get on extremely well most of the time and we do love each other. Or maybe I'm just kidding myself there.

The trip is currently on hold until I can figure things out in my head.