I too hated boundaries, still can at times LOL, but what i've come to learn is that if a well adjusted person is using boundaries then I can trust they are for my own good and not being used as a weapon.

Trust is very hard! But its through witnessing the effects boundaries have on my relationship wth T that I am learning to understand them.

Sometimes it takes someone that really cares to appear "harsh"? it easy to "give in" but so hard to stand your ground, as I know from raising my 3 children! sometimes I have to say things to them that I feel awful about. But hopefully they know they can come to me because I will say what I mean and not just give in to appear the good mother? does that make sense?