Hello Just a guy.
I sincerely feel that you need to EVALUATE the situation and see for youself what you need to do to be safe and secure. It seems like you need to control the situation by helping her to do the right thing, and if she wanted to do the right thing she would not need you giving the ultimatums in order to be in a stable relationship. If you have a therapist I would highly suggest that you get the help you need in order to see things as they truly are at this time, instead of having someone else DESTROY your life and FUTURE,. REVENGE can destroy you as well, PLEASE do not go there you may find yourself regretting the decision later than sooner..I hope the best for you and I hope you get the help you need at this time to help you gain control for your future to be something youcan be happy and content with at this time. Take care and good day. Soidhonia