Ok. That's frustrating. Though I think that's the kind of thing you can work through. I don't think my T has a plan for me, I think we work through stuff as I bring it up. That's pretty standard as far as I can tell. I do have this fantasy of her totally taking charge and me just getting to answer fun questions (like "if you could magically remake some decision in your life, what would you do?") or something.

But "she's poison to me" sounds like there is something much worse than that going on. I don't think you've painted a "dark" picture of her here, I think you've painted a picture of a T with boundary issues who doesn't seem like she's at the top of her game. That's my perception at any rate. But where do you think your sense that she's "poison" is coming from?